In this episode, I bring on dating coach Laurie Gerber to coach me in real time—so you can hear exactly how a pro would tune up your dating life, too.

Laurie and I talk about my 104/100 score on her “Are You Ready to Date Like You Mean It?” quiz, my 7 deal-makers, and why I’ve been attracting the wrong attachment styles for years. We discuss approaches to vetting on dating apps—my faster-paced, phone-call filter versus her methodical, text-and-video-chat approach.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
• Laurie’s 3 stages of dating over 50 and obstacles that often keep people stuck in “not quite ready” mode.
• Why you may be attracting the same attachment styles that help to explain why you keep attracting the same kind of partner—and what to do about it.
• Discussion of Deal Makers/Breakers to keep them positive and inspiring rather than secretly negative and judgmental.
• A practical framework (Head–Heart–Hoo-ha) for assessing compatibility in midlife dating.
• Laurie and Paul debate how quickly you should get to the phone call. Why moving too fast to the phone can cost you potential matches—and why Laurie prefers video chats.

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Paul Nelson is an individual who underwent a significant transformation after his divorce, re-entering the dating scene with a determination to learn and grow. He recognized the outdated dating advice prevalent in his generation and sought to rectify this by immersing himself in self-improvement resources, including books, podcasts, seminars, and practical experiences. Through over 110 first dates, he developed into a skilled dater and founded “50 Dates at 50” to share his insights and help others navigate the complexities of modern dating. His story highlights the importance of continuous learning, resilience, and personal growth in relationships.