About 50 Dates at 50

The Concept Behind 50 Dates at 50

The initial idea behind 50 Dates was to create a place for people to share dating stories. If you set up an average of one new meetup date every other week, that’s 26 per year. After four years, you can exceed 100. Each of those meetups has a story.

In the early days, there are a lot of one-and-done meetups. This is due to the learning curve involved with online dating. In online dating, you have to acquire many skills. This starts with writing a good profile and having great pictures taken. Next is learning how to properly communicate through the website or app interface. Then you have to pull the trigger: ask for the date and set up the logistics. At the date, you must demonstrate you’ve got your act together and can hold a good in-person read more…

Paul’s Story

After 21 years of marriage, followed by a separation in 2012 and the completion of an amicable divorce in 2014, I re-entered the dating pool. It was truly a culture shock coming to terms with how the dating world had changed. I’d basically been off the market since 1989. What became obvious rather quickly was that most of the dating and relationship knowledge taught to me in my younger years was filled with half-truths or was completely inaccurate. Many men and women in our age group are stuck in this outdated and incorrect mindset. To make matters worse, a good portion of the current dating advice on the Internet is from millennials with minimal real-life experience. As a result, most men do not understand the fundamentals of dating and how to properly communicate with women. Likewise, most women do not understand how men think. As an engineer, I like to know how things work. In order to grow as an individual and become more dateable and relationship savvy, I set upon a course of learning that I hoped would help me better understand relationships, human interaction, and how women think. I read anything that seemed appropriate, listened to podcasts and mp3 books, participated in boot camps and seminars, and applied what I learned to my social and dating life

“Growth” is the best way to describe the experience I ended up having. We all know growth can be a painful and ugly thing. It means falling down, skinning your knees, and facing humiliation. In fact, “Mistakes” became my middle name. I met many quality women who had great relationship potential. Unfortunately, with many of them, I had not yet grasped enough knowledge to be the quality dateable man they were looking for. In many instances, I never got past the first date. However, when you stay the course, magic eventually happens—magic from your hard work. After a few years of hands-on application, everything began to make sense. Dating became fun, getting multiple dates in to evaluate relationship potential became typical.

50 Dates at 50 is the result of over 110 first dates in which I developed into becoming a good dater—one who became prepared for the right person to come along. And the learning continues! Here, we will continue to discover together how to become quality, dateable men and women who know how to spot other people of quality. The website is born of observations and life experiences.